Even when you have happy, comfortable and fulfilling lifestyle, there are those days when you feel that your moods are so low and you are fed up with life. During such days, you will feel like you are fed up with everything around you, including events, items and people. Some people will also prefer to be alone during such times. This feeling may kick in the moment you fail to achieve certain goals, needs, dreams or expectations in life. As a result of the failure, you will start to feel worthless. In other cases, this feeling may creep because you fell short of your imagination. Mentioned here are some of the aspects of this feeling that you need to understand in order to control the feeling more effectively.

What to Do If I'm Fed Up with Life


Review Your Life Before This Feeling

To properly address this problem, you first need to know where it originated. In this regard, you should pay a close attention to the ambitions, goals and aspirations you had before now, in relation to the experiences and happenings that lead to this feeling. If such is the cause of this feeling, you need to start making realistic goals and ambitions for the days to come. This will ensure that you are working towards something achievable hence negate this feeling.


Share with Friends and Family

Getting fed up with life is commonly caused by downfalls and shortcomings in life. A good way to solve the problem is opening up to those close to you, including friends and family. Talk to such people and express your frustrations with life without worrying that they will judge you. By sharing, you are likely to come across other people who experienced the same problem, hence learn from them.


Regain Control

Weeping and lamenting will not make the condition any better. Instead, these will make you lose your mind and make you become more anxious. You are the only person who is in a better position to tell where you went wrong. Gaining control over your life once again is among the best strategies of dealing with this feeling of hopelessness. In this regard, you should gain control of all aspects of your life, become more realistic, optimistic, and thoughtful as well as share with people to help accept the situation at hand and forge forward.


Try to Relax

Relaxing your body and remaining calm will help you combat the worry and anxiety associated with this feeling. For instance, it is normal for the mind to wander into the past events that led to this frustration. As such, it is vital that you gain full control of your emotions by remaining calm and collected every time. Rather than meditating, try to relax and get good sleep and partake in activities you already love, such as listening to music as you doze away.


Remain Occupied Throughout the Day

If you laze around doing nothing, it is easy for the mind to wander to the past. This constant remembrance of the past events will not help you move on. To avoid remembering and contemplating on the issue, you should look for something fun to do and remain occupied. Here are some of the activities you should try:

  • Yoga

  • Walking

  • Exercises

  • Swimming

  • Watching movies or listening to your favorite music

  • Taking a lunch or coffee break from work


Get Help from a Professional Counselor

While some people shy away from these professionals, a professional counselor can be of great help as you are trying to acknowledge the situation and move on with your life. As such, if you feel that the tired and sick feeling is taking over your emotions and the remedies mentioned here are not working, you should call a counselor to help you overcome this hopelessness. You may also combine this remedy with other remedies mentioned here for better results.


Cultivate a Positive Attitude and Weigh Your Options

Your attitude towards your life is one of the things that can make you prosper or fail in life. If you are feeling fed up of life, you need to take advantage of your attitude to better your emotions. Although you have failed in one aspect of life, you should maintain a positive attitude and be optimistic of good things to come. While doing this, you also need to evaluate your options with regards to future goals and ambitions as well as how to negate the feeling of hopelessness. Here are some of the reasons why you need to cultivate a positive attitude in your life:

  • It will help you work your way through various challenges

  • It will enhance your success in future endeavors

  • It will assist you in bettering your communication skills



Though many people do not yet acknowledge writing as a remedy for this depressing feeling, it is among the most effective remedies. Writing helps to keep the mind occupied and focused on what you are writing about. As a result, the mind will not get the chance to wander to the past. With time, this technique will help you forget about what happened. 

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Possible Reasons Why You're Fed Up with Life

In a bid to tackle this problem effectively, you first need to understand why you are fed up of life. There are various reasons why human beings may become fed up with their own lives. Mentioned here are some of the things that may result in this feeling.


Stress is the most common cause of this hopeless feeling. When the body is subjected to a stressful situation, you tend to feel overwhelmed because it appears like you are being pulled in all directions. In such situations, it is possible for you to develop a feeling of being fed up with your own life.



Why I'm fed up with my own life is a question that many people cannot answer up to date. Other than stress, depression is another common cause of the feeling. There are various things that may take away the feeling of vibrancy and the excitement from your life. When this happens, you will start to feel depressed by almost everything, hence fed up with life. Among the common cause of depression is mood disorder. Additionally, the death of a loved one or divorce may also lead to depression.


When Things Are Not Working the Way They Are Supposed To

There are those times in life when you get to encounter one misfortune after the other. In such case, you will begin to feel as if God is punishing you and that nothing is working no matter how hard you try. This can make you lose hope in life; hence develop the feeling of being fed up with life.



While growing up, it is normal to have that burning desire to become something or do something, such as becoming a pilot or a police officer. However, as time goes by, you start to realize that you cannot achieve the goal. This leads to rut, which will make you feel fed up with your own life. This feeling may also creep in when you start to get bored by the routine and monotonous activities in your workplace.


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  • JackieJan.8 20:16
    Whilst I feel fed up of life a lot of the time, I feel I have the right to live life my way. However societal norms tell us we have to be happy even if we have to pretend to be so. We don't all have to be the same. I wish we could all come together and seriously be who we are, express our sadness, our discontent, our aims not achieved etc. only then can we say we accept ourselves and each other without expectation! I don't want to give up on life because life isn't just for the lucky ones or the ones who have it easy, we ordinary ones have a right to breathe in the air, appreciate the beauty of nature and wish for nice things to happen too. I know some really seemingly happy people who are desperately lonely. This only came about because I started talking about loneliness at work and this allowed other people to tell me they're lovely too. I know I'm not alone but sometimes life is a lonely place.
  • tobyuDec.15 02:54
    i am so disallusioned with "life" I have been a heroin addict most my life, alcoholoic, my family despise me, because i am miserable. I have no friends, I have gone to bed and woken up for over 3,000 days now alone and most of the time cold. I have tried to kill myself 2 times not cries for help, 70 10 mg valium washed down with a litre of vodka, follwed by a swift IV injection of average smack about a gramme and a half, just woke up with a headache the first time, the second time they sectioned me. But then let me go. They have me on all these pills. I have tried some for years, others I tried and I feel NO different on or off them. I just want to go to sleep and never wake up, I do not believe there is anything past the blackness of unconsciousness. I wish sometimes I was in a country where I could get a fire arm and just blow my pathetic infintesimal life away. I am not even particularly scared of dying, its the effect I shall have on others. I suppose I could just disappear and that would be that. I am not young 45 years old and I am exhausted with trying to be happy, to please everyone else, because I am "negative" and useless, and should not use my family as my psychiatrists. I am an elective mute a lot of the time, because frankly I have nothing to say, and no one to say it to. I think that this charade should be ended. Tis time I shuffled from this mortal coil.
  • jackieDec.10 16:50
    I came on this site because of what i am feeling now and have been feeling for long time. I read all the comments and especially mel b comment in helping others.....i have done that for a long time helped and put others before myself which always backfires. I ended up with depression anxiety and started hating people. Although helping others can be rewarding it also has its bad effects. Not so easy to get out off due to guilty feelings bringing you to a place that i am in now , fed up of life and fed up of helping others. Fighting between guilt if i dont and depression when i do.
  • varsha Dec.1 15:51
    I'm totally fed up with my life. I'm facing relationship issues since a long time at the same time having professional issues. Its look like day by day I'm loosing interest in my life. Many many times i feel i need someone who could make me laugh, who could understand me. I really dont know what to do?? Pls suggest something...
  • Anmol AsthanaDec.1 14:04
    I am a 19 year old guy. I feel fed up with my life cause no matter how much I try I fail in my exams. This has led to parents being frustrated and getting angry at me. I have literally led a supposed 'good boy' life. I do not drink, smoke and do all the bad habits. I don't even have a girlfriend or that sort of a thing. I wonder why is God being so harsh on me as I haven't inculcated any bad habits and always been a good guy. Sometimes I really feel like giving up on life as it doesn't have any sense to live :(
  • Malli thatcherNov.27 20:21
    I honestly don't know what to do. I don't know how to react to people. My primary school was just amazing. In my middle school I was badly bullied. And now despite a lot of therapy I feel I'm not good enough to be around. What should I do?
  • Rajwinder kaurNov.17 15:42
    My name is Rajwinder Kaur.....M struggling with intense depression.....I alwys feel tht iam lonely even i hv frnds n family!! M feeling jealous sometimes frm people i dn't may be because of my own failure..sometimes i started crying without any of the reason ...Iam 24rs old...but i feel lik me gettng older i feel myself like a 60yr old lady...i alwys feel lazy...my legs strt paining lik dere is nothng inside my body...feeling sick sometimes ...i dn't like to go to college meetng with people ...It's lik i locked myself in d room!! I dn't wanna talk to anyone dn't wanna go n meet anyone....i want to be alone..because i feel people r soo selfish dese days...i cn't trust....i dn't knw wht's happening with me...m scared!! ????????????
  • Chintan Oct.12 14:14
    I used to be a good basketball player and write whenever I had time. In college, I gave my everything towards the game even when my parents said it's not a good idea to focus solely on sports. I scored low in commerce but continued playing basketball for the 'love' of the game. It doesn't pay much and all I get is few rupees to scrape through the month. I'm 24 now and probably suffering from depression, it's so hard to smile nowadays. I get a gnawing feeling whenever I'm on the court and my legs feel like hot jelly. I try not to cry when I see Dad still working and having that worn off expression, and it hurts so bad that all I have to offer is so little. I always thought following my dream will enable me to have a good life and when I see my face in the mirror nowadays I don't like the person I've become. Being kind, chasing dreams and giving your everything to realise it leads to the disappointed face of my dad wasn't worth it. I work hard, but I don't think there's any redemption in this life anymore...just plain old suffering and a hollowness that makes me sick everyday. I hope things change man...
  • I am fed up with life, most of my family wouldn't even consider me family. I've been homeless a few times, I've hit rock bottom several times only to climb out of the rut with missing fingernails and a shattered spirit. I don't talk to any of the people I used to because they all seem so fake or phony or just want something from you in my eyes. The world is going to shit around me, countries are fighting over trivial things only for self gain. You spend most of your life working your butt off only to get a few dollars that other companies quickly take from you leaving you with pennies to survive on. Retirement is not an option for my generation, we will be working until we are dead due to inflation and the greedy nature of the 1% of the world. Every company just wants to put their hands in your pockets and take what you've worked so hard for. We are waiting for 1 of 2 devils to take the white house office as president, and regardless of who wins we will end up in a war. People are a parasite to Earth. We are led to believe the government and police will protect us but in this day and age they are the most corrupt of them all. The government hides so much from the people as to what they are doing behind our backs because they know the people of the country wouldn't support it. There's alien bases on the moon, media just tries to mask it. We hold ourselves back as a species due to our own ignorance and greed for both money and religion. I feel so helpless in this world, as if I don't belong here. I've contemplated suicide a few times, but I don't have the guts to do it as I'm not that shallow. I don't think I will ever reach peace living on this planet as I'm just disgusted with how everything is ran. We are led to believe we have a choice, as if our lives mattered as much as the presidents, but our lives mean nothing. We are at the bottom of the totem pole, paying everyone everything we have just to have a place to call home and some food to eat. I've experienced more bad times than good in this lifetime and quite frankly, I wouldn't mind being a casualty in WW3 as I wouldn't have to put up with this worlds bull crap anymore. Humanity sickens me, and there's nothing I can do to fix it. You can say eat healthy, but eating "healthy" is more expensive than eating our typical GMO foods. There's no privacy anymore, phone companies can look through your phones camera and record audio at any time. There are cameras everywhere and everyone is constantly looking over their shoulders. We buy into medication thinking that it will help us but It only numbs the pain until the drug wears off. We have a cure for cancer but choose not to use it regularly as there's more money to be made off someone that has to see the doctor and buy medications constantly. The word humanity is non existent, and honestly I would rather die than have to sit back and watch the world screw itself over yet again. I don't want to live on this planet anymore, and I've run out of room..
  • sainaSep.27 19:12
    Nothing is perfect as I may say....i did nt hd a great or even a good life so far and the hope to see a bright future is deminishing day by day. I am really fed up and distressed by seeing my condition. The everyday routine of my work has made me a negative and a rude person. What am I gonna do ?? I m 22 and stil dnt have any job. The problem is because of the condition of my home m nt allowed to work..I have to give all my time and efforts for d family cooking for them feeding cleaning washing etc etc n m really fed up nw sometimes I feel suicidal what is dis life....jst full of shit
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