Do you ever have lengthy conversations with yourself, or make up voices in your head, each with a different personality? Although this is not the same as hearing voices, you may wonder, “Why do I talk to myself in my head all the time?” Well, here we might be able to provide you with some of the answers.

Talking to Myself in My Head: Other People's Experiences

Believe it or not, talking to yourself in the head is a common condition, so you’re not alone. Here, other people share their experiences.

“Sometimes I talk to myself out loud, although I try to avoid doing this around other people to prevent them staring at me. When I have appointments, I'll speak to myself either aloud or in my head about what I’m doing. I’m sure I don't have schizophrenia, but it’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only one talking to myself in my head.”   --- Jane

“I talk to myself in my head all the time. Although I'm well right now, I can always have an internal dialogue going the next minute. Occasionally, I’ll say the words in my head out loud or quietly murmuring rubbish. I get very anxious over whether I actually said something or if it’s just in my brain, as often I’m not sure. This makes me believe that other people will be listening to my thoughts if I’m not careful. It’s almost as if two people are talking to each other – one in each ear.”   --- Lev

“Everyone speaks about so-called 'self-talk' and how this can have a positive or negative impact, so normal people must also talk to themselves in some way. When I was young, I went to see a psychiatrist. I put forward the idea of replacing nasty childhood memories with more pleasant experiences to move on. My therapist agreed, so I started to go for hiking and fishing trips, and taking holidays whenever we could afford it.”   --- Anonymous       

So, Is It Really a Problem?

Talking to yourself does not necessarily indicate a mental illness. Indeed, self-talk can be perfectly normal, and help you to acknowledge your own feelings. However, sometimes, self-talk, particularly if it is incessant or very negative in nature, can indicate certain medical illnesses. For example, patients with depression may find that they talk to themselves more often during a depressive episode. You need to aware of your thoughts and look for other signs that you may have a psychological condition.

Depression and Anxiety

Patients who are depressed or anxious can experience constant mind-talk, which is usually harsh, judgmental or frightening in nature. Depression and anxiety often co-exist, although they are classified as two separate ailments. Anxiety usually manifests itself with physical symptoms – tightness in the chest, a pounding heart and trouble breathing, together with a constant agitated feeling. Conversely, depression is associated with feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and discouragement.


Patients with schizophrenia may not appear ill, but they can experience profound changes in their mental state, which often correspond with notable behavioral changes. The signs and symptoms of schizophrenia include:

  • Withdrawal from social events.

  • A feeling of being in a hazy, dream-like state. This is known as depersonalization, and is sometimes accompanied by deep anxiety.

  • Neglecting personal hygiene.

  • Decreased appetite.

  • Disorganized speaking patterns.

  • Delusions or hallucinations (seeing and hearing imaginary events).

  • The sensation of being controlled by outside forces.

Tips to Stop Talking to Yourself

Constant talking in your head can be very distressing whatever causes it may be involved, but luckily there are measures you can take to lessen your symptoms.

  • Don’t try to stop the thoughts. Forcing yourself to stop talking to yourself will usually only make the condition worse. If you acknowledge your self-talk and accept it, you will be better positioned to deal with it.

  • Don’t believe all your thoughts are true. Remember that thoughts are just thoughts, and they are not necessarily correct. It’s easy to get caught up in your thoughts, forgetting that they are just transient feelings that are subject to constant change.

  • Stop judging yourself. It’s easy to believe that there is something wrong with you and feel guilty about your own thoughts. However, again, they are just thoughts that happen to pass through your brain; don’t judge yourself because of them.

  • Pay attention to your thoughts. Self-awareness stems from observing rather than merely experiencing your thoughts. This way, you can evaluate your mental processes and have greater control over your own mind.

  • Become aware of your internal state. In addition to developing consciousness of your thoughts, you also need to notice your physical feelings in your body. This will allow a greater connection between your mental and physical states.

  • Practice meditation. If, occasionally, you stop what you are doing and concentrate on how you feel right now, you can achieve tremendous peace of mind. Allow brain chatter at first, but slowly practice focusing and relaxing.

  • Ask yourself for advice. Ask yourself direct questions, writing them down or speaking aloud. When you’ve put your feelings out there this way, it can help you develop the answers from within your own mind.

  • Turn to other things. If possible, turn to other things that can make you feel relaxed and happy, such as listening to music, watching a comic, taking a bath or just talking with friends or family.

When to See a Doctor

You need to make an appointment with a healthcare professional if you think there may something wrong with your mental state, especially if your self-talk is distressing you and affecting your everyday life. If it’s someone you know with this problem, get them to speak to a doctor, even if they’re afraid.


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  • EmemOct.4 12:11
    I too have this voice inside my head. At first, it was when I was still in High School and I had mental problems like my head is in pain. I felt hopeless. Then some months ago, I hear it is getting loud. I made a song with the lyrics, "Embrace me Satan" and sometimes I consider the voice as him. But I try to tell myself this is just that normal voice inside your head, and of course, it helps you sometimes. I know talking to yourself is sometimes helpful, but now I control it, but not in a way that's too much, so I let it just flow naturally. There's even this ghosts lurking around and following me saying the things inside my mind. It's kinda annoying and I called a Paranormal Investigations unit to help me. They're just busy now. Later on I hope these ghosts would be at peace. As of the one speaking in my mind, I just consider it as that normal voice inside my head just like before now, and try to think it is just normal.
  • JDYSep.16 10:47
    I too talk to myself in my head or mind daily its fun because 'they' help me in more than one way in leading me making choice or just spend time with when I'm alone. Though I'm always tell myself they are just my figment of my imagination but still I find its hard to believe so....
  • MinusAug.16 00:58
    I talk to myself and answer myself. I would like to know what it is but I don't want to be "cured" of it. It's like my passenger who helps me out in life. It typically triggers when I'm alone, but not always. Sometimes when real people are talking to me the passenger gives me its opinion of what the person talking about. It's like I can literally hear my entire thought process. I never feel like I'm alone, and never have. I was aware of this since I can remember. There's downsides though. Sometimes the passenger will make up stories, example: telling me my fiancé is cheating on me. Building an entire argument between me and myself about whether this is true or just made up. I'm 32 years old and it took me a long time to control it. By control, I mean coexist with it. I don't know what this is called, but it's very real. Hard to explain to people who don't know anything about this.
  • Alyanna PandiJul.2 16:27
    Talking to myself, it triggers me when I'm alone. I can't control. Later on, I just realized and saying "I'm talking to myself again". I just can't stop thinking, there's a lot of things that comes into my mind and start talking. I'm afraid because I can't help it, it's really hard to control. For me to avoid with that kind of situation, I'll never let myself alone in that way I can control. But somestimes, it can't avoided there's a time that you're really alone. I'm afraid of being alone.
  • JoseeAug.19 03:56
    @ : To you all I say your not alone the Jesus is with and he will always be with you. Don't think that your ever alone pray to the lord he will hear you, trust me. Pray to him about this situation because I do the same as he comforts me and I pray that I may stop talking to myself. You may not receive your answer quickly but Jesus will answer you trust me. Just keep praying don't loss faith in him.
  • DarksapphireJun.16 23:52
    Honestly some people are convinced I have a multiple personality and should see a specialist but the truth is the specialists will try to break me of this habit I don't want that this is my head and the "others" that are there with me have been with me since the beginning. I was always the out cast even in my family, the only people that truly understand what I'm going through is the "voices" they help me keep out of trouble, stay safe, and stay in line. We will always have thoughts of doubt, hate, love, safety, even being reckless, it's all part of human nature, it only makes sense that I give them a voice and space in my mind so that they can speak freely and I can compare the pros and cons of each decision to figure out what is best for me. So don't lock out these voices embrace them open the door to let them in its the only way to not end up in a straight jacket and let them control your life.
  • lostgirlNov.30 03:45
    I have a form of broad casting telepathy and so i talk to people from the past and the future. God gave me this gift and i am using it and saying the wrong things to people. My head hurts so bad due to constant telepathy use. Don't know what to do,. how to master this or cope with it> just lost
  • notcrazyOct.9 13:46
    I have been experiencing this same thing, but it is different than just talking to myself, I have been repeating things (words or sentences in my head for no reason and sometimes im not even aware that i am saying it over and over until all of a sudden my mind comes back to reality and Im aware then I just say to myself what is wrong with my brain.. sometimes its just as simple as the last thing i said to someone, my brain will say it over and over then click back to reality where i realized what I am doing... very strange and worries me.. time to see the Doctor I guess..
  • DonnaAug.25 10:44
    Ask God in prayer to help you to stop talking to yourself and ask the Lord to control your lips. Only He can help a person to overcome self-talk. Or focus on lovely music in your mind that is relaxing. If a person is negative in the self-talk, it can emotionally train a person. Donna
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