When someone leaves your life, whether they end your relationship, move away or they are no longer living, it can be difficult to deal with. That is you may wonder what to do when you miss someone to help stop the pain and misery, and still allow the person to get on with their life. The truth of the matter is that you must let that person go, and then spend time focusing on yourself in order to truly get back to your life. The time that you spend on yourself and the growth from this experience is going to help you to enjoy life and be a much happier person.

What to Do When You Miss Someone


Avoid hibernating in your home

One of the biggest issues that you will have with missing someone is when you lock yourself in your home and basically hibernate in your home. The worst way in how to deal with missing someone is to cut yourself off from outside activities. Chances are, while sitting at home, you are going to miss the person even more. That is why it is important to get out, even if it is only to go to the grocery or the gym.


Stay connected with friends

When wondering what to do when you miss someone, always remember that spending time with your friends is a great way to escape from the memory of someone else. Your friends are going to be there for you and this is one of the best methods for coping with missing someone. These friends are going to help get your mind off of what happened, and eventually allow you to find your true self again. Plus, they are the people that know you the best, so they may know how to get your mind off the person better than anyone.


Increase your brain power

If you have put off going to the new art gallery around the corner, or watching what is considered a “smart movie”, then take the time to do this now. You will find that through expanding your interests, even if you are trying something out that does not work in the end, is a great way to expand your horizons. You may not like everything that you try out, but your brain will expand despite not liking what you see. Try out new things that you may have once felt threatened about, such as a new art gallery, and simply see what there is to offer. Even though you may not like it, you still have expanded your brain.


Now is the time to quit coffee addictions and smoking

When you wonder what to do when you miss someone, it can be easy for you to become an avid coffee drinker and smoker, especially if you already did these things. However, now that the someone is gone from your life, it is the perfect time to quit these habits. Why is this? Basically, because going through the withdrawal and quitting of these habits can help to get your mind off of the person that you miss, and instead you are focusing on you, something that you need to do. In addition, you get the benefit of living a healthier life once you cut out the smoking.


See someone new

Even though you may miss someone, it is time to get back out there. This does not necessarily mean that you are going to start a serious relationship, and that is fine. But, you could meet some interesting people who turn into great friends, and you could have a lot of fun. The idea is that you are seeing that the world doesn’t stop turning even though you miss a certain someone in your life. And you never know, you may meet someone that is the perfect match for you when you get back out in the dating world.


Let the music say it for you

Many people who have missed someone in the past find that listening to music is a great way to deal with all those feelings. Take the time to listen to songs that speak about missing someone, or just songs that remind you of the person that is no longer in your life for whatever reason. However, remember not to do this constantly.


Email yourself your thoughts

This may sound strange, but it does work. When you were younger, you may have been told to keep a journal to help deal with emotions. But, as an adult, you often spend more time sitting at a computer, so why not journal your feelings and email these to yourself. It can be a great way to deal with those feelings, learn what triggers you may have for these feelings, and is the ultimately method for what to do when you miss someone. Anytime you feel the need to talk, simply jot down an email and send it to yourself with the feelings you are having.


Thank the person you are missing

Though you may initially be angry at the person who left you, you do need to look at what all that person has taught you or how they helped your life. This is where writing a thank you note can be helpful. Tell the person you miss just how much they meant to you, thank them for the good times that you two had, or if the person taught you something that has changed your life, let them know. This thank you letter is a way to close the relationship, and you are going to feel better for doing it this way. It is the ultimate end to what to do when you miss someone, as it provides closure.


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  • Rakner Nov.29 15:02
    So there was this girl that I had a crush on for like half a year,she was my close friend's girlfriend.but had I a crush on her way before he was with her,I guess he was the one with the guts.I talked to her on a dare,so I tried to flirt,it was really obvious to her,but she played along.we just became friends ,5 months or so later,she broke up.i couldn't hold my feelings any longer ,so I told her.she politely declined.every now n then I bother just to ask how is she.normaly we use to talk a lot , but now it just seems so distant.im forcing myself not to talk to her anymore,but it's going slow and hard.everyday i think about her,which makes me said .almost everything reminds me about her,every song,scenery,movie,quote basically everything leads to me thinking about her.i still miss her ,but there is practically -3882828% of anything happening.So I guess it's time to burn bridges?
  • LaraNov.8 21:49
    Jazz!! Very worried to read your comment amd cant write to you personally? Please get help and support, talk to someone about your feelings. You need to see a counsellor, or doctor to get help xxx
  • BobbyOct.22 22:34
    I miss this girl who I had a crush on, but I never got the guts to talk to her. Now, I have moved away, and I don't see her anymore.
  • JazzOct.19 01:59
    Theres this girl i am inlove with. For 3 years of me only seeing pictures of her on social media i met her in person. Its weird how we met, we come from the same city, recently i moved to a new city hours away from home to live on a campus at my school. A few months go by and she pops up at my school and started going to school with me. I was so shy i couldnt talk to her without running away in fear lol. I finally grew the balls to speak to her, took me a while but soon enough we started dating. Our relationship got bad because i didnt like the way she talked to other people being flirtatious. So we broke it off. Now shes moved on pretty quickly about a day after we broke up and every day i have to see her and this other person in my face. Im trying to move on with someone else but its hard after i fell so hard for this girl i crushed on 3 years straight. I want to leave but if i do i will have no home to go to because im not from this city and i know nobody at all. I have not the first clue what i should do to move on. I cry every night because i miss her so much. Seeing this girl i fell inlove with kissing somebody else is so terribly heartbreaking i can honestly say i do not want to be alive anymore. Suicide is the easiest way out. I cant run away and go home, i have no home or family here. I cant hide from her because this campus is so small everywhere i turn shes right there, i cant imagine us being friends when i still have to see her and this other person together all the time. I cant live like this anymore i feel so muh hatred for myself.
  • lolaOct.9 14:52
    Reading everyone post somehow helps Thanks guys :) It makes me feel more normal. My best friend has run off and not told us where he is going and when he will return and it's made me so worried. I miss him loads and am really lonely right now. I have lost many poeple in my life-e.g people have died or friends have just simply moved on and yes i miss them sometimes but i have thought about it and it was the right action for them at the time so i've come to accept it. But my friend has run away and his Mum is worried like seriously worried and he may have been depressed and i keep haveing dreams where he kills himself cause he is so depressed. I don't think he will though, but I tend to believe dreams more than i should.I just hope he contacts us soon--i may get a private detective to find him though just so we can check he is safe and mentally stable. I guess my main problem is the ambiguity of the situation--is he ok?? is the main question.
  • Gemma Sep.28 04:22
    Thanks.. the pointer helps...thou not all because it wasn't a broken relationship but just a temporary get away since he needs to be back his homeland and i am left with mine after a first time meeting and have just spent 23 wonderful and lovely days together.. somehow i felt half of my heart he had brought with him.. don't know if if feels equally the same but i'm sure we had a mutual affection and love for each other.. just the same so thankful because the first few days is really getting me so hard to cope up. and this some pointers might help me moving up.. anyways there is much more to look forward to as the level of our relationship goes into a higher level.. again, thanks much! your article is well appreciated! ;-) - gemma
  • JoeSep.15 22:57
    I miss a girl I was in school with, she quite quickly became the love of my life and she was the only person I ever wanted to talk to and meet up with. Now 4 years after I first met her, she's gone to university and now I know i'm only going to see her about twice a year when previously I saw her nearly every weekday. The pain is just too much I don't even talk to anyone else. Just want her back here.
  • Macie Carson Sep.4 03:57
    I had a friend who i'd known since kindergarten basically, and we were bffs. But, since our differences where so great, we started to grow apart. She was very sporty athletic kinda girl, I was kinda the nature outdoorsy type. We were great friends till the end of elementary school. During summer break, we didn't see each other. When sixth grade rolled around, we only smiled and said hi in the halls when we passed. About 3/4ths of the way through 6th grade I realized, I'd lost her. It broke my heart to see how we'd been best friends just 7-8 months ago, and now… well, I still think about her, two years later, in 8th grade. Seeing her in the hallway during passing period, it's just a painful reminder of how much I actually miss her. I can't not forget the smiles, the laughs, the sleepovers, the play dates, and the "parties" we've had together as little kids. We live in the same neighborhood, and I remember her house because it's right across from our old elementary. It's also right at the entrance to the neighborhood, so whenever we drive by, I just look at it. I can't help not looking. I don't know how to deal with it. She was my only friend at the time, and it took moving in a different house in the neighborhood to get a new friend. That was in seventh grade. It took me a year and 1/2 to get a new friend.
  • Lana Aug.13 03:36
    My best friend who I call a sister moved to Tennessee and she's thirteen hours away and it feels hopeless ????
  • ElanaAug.4 11:42
    Hey there well quite a long time ago I went out with this guy who I had known for a while and we were rlly good friends, but overtime he didn't rlly talk to me and I had no idea why because we always used to talk. Then one day he told me that we should break up because apparently he wasn't ready for a girlfriend and that he doesn't want one. I had no idea why he decided this, he was perfect he was the love of my life. Then all of a sudden we split and he said to me that we could still be friends and that we will talk to each other. I texted him and texted him all he will do is look at the text and say nothing back it's like he doesn't care about me anymore. I don't know what to do all I want, is to have him back.
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